Don't be afraid of making mistakes.
My child has struggled with many things because she doesn't want to make a mistake. She doesn't want to disappoint us.
And I totally get it.
It sucks to make a mistake. One of the worst feelings in the world is to do something or say something or be something that the world will not accept as anything less than perfect.
The "ideal" is a constantly moving bar -- we can never reach it, because other people keep setting the bar higher and higher.
I especially feel this as a result of Pinterest. My projects never turn out the way they should. I may never bake such fabulous treats as the recipe queens, and I may never come up with clever little art projects to entertain my daughter and her friends.
And that's ok.
That doesn't stop me from trying to do my best, though. I don't want the fear of failure to prevent my daughter from doing her best, either.
I think we are all better served if we try things. If we are allowed to make mistakes - and don't give ourselves or others grief about those mistakes - the opportunity for growth and talent and happiness starts to get closer to reach.
The "ideal" starts to come within reach because we become better. We learn better. We know better.
And like Emerson said:
"Unless you try to do something beyond what you have already mastered, you will never grow."
Trying new things leaves us open to mistakes, to failure, to ridicule... but it also opens doors and throws open windows.
If you want your child to succeed, encourage her to try new things and to accept mistakes as learning opportunities.