When I discovered that I was pregnant with a baby girl, my husband and I found out the hard way that it isn't always easy to choose the right baby name. A name sticks with the child for life, and choosing the right one is not a task that is to be entered into lightly. We had the perfect little boy name picked out, as we were hoping for a boy. His name: Dexter Danger. Whoa. Doesn't that name just ooze awesomeness? When we discovered that he was actually a she, things got complicated.
There were questions:
What are you going to name her? Will she wear a lot of pink?
There were suggestions:
You should name her this... This name would mean a lot to so-and-so...
And there were even subtle threats:
If you name your child that, she will be made fun of. I know I'll refuse to call her by that name.
In the end, it all came down to our personal taste and standing strong against adversity. Yes, friends and family are all very happy to welcome a new baby into the world but a big problem most parents deal with is when those opinions start to become obnoxious, pushy, or just outright condescending.
My big piece of advice: Don't get pushed around. You and the baby's father are the parents, not anyone else. Sure, my mother raised me (and I think she did a wonderful job at that) but that didn't give her any right over what I named my child, let alone the decisions I make regarding how she is to be raised/dressed/fed.
There are many books, websites, and other resources for finding the right baby name, but the important things to remember are all things that can only come from experience:
- Choose something that both parents can agree on. Trust me on this - if your spouse is not happy about the name, then nobody will be happy.
- Stay away from odd spelling or pronunciation, unless it is something your culture will understand.
- Make it meaningful.
- Don't choose something that you are less-than-thrilled about, because this is something that will stick with baby (and you!) for the rest of your life.
- And finally - don't name your child after someone that you used to date or have a romantic connection with. That is just asking for trouble (see the first tip on this list).
Now, if you've been reading my blog for a little while, you would know that I refer to my daughter as Danger. A lot of bloggers don't reveal their child's actual name on their sites, but I do. While Danger is not her first name, I am glad to say that although she is the most sensible, rational, careful creature on this planet - her middle name is in fact Danger.
How We Chose The Name Danger
I promised a looong time ago to reveal the reasoning behind my daughter's middle name. It was something that was pretty much decided from the beginning of my relationship with my husband, even though at the time, we were not planning on ever having children. Huh?!
When my husband and I were first dating, he did home renovation. There were always so many ways that he could get hurt, so I would warn him every day before heading in to my job, "That looks dangerous!" to which he would reply, "Danger is my middle name."
I know that it may seem odd or corny, but his personality and very different sense of humor made me fall madly in love with him. We're talking head over heels, engaged-within-a-month-of-meeting, and married-within-four-months-from when-we-met kind of love. I am very pleased to say that we will be celebrating our SIX year wedding anniversary next month and are going stronger than ever!
But this post is about choosing a baby name, and that has nothing to do with it.
So yes, my daughter's middle name is Danger. As for her first name, we did have problems like the ones mentioned above. I try to write from my own personal experience as much as possible.
People did not like her name. We were argued with, made fun of, and the like... but we rose above all the unflattering comments and stayed strong with our wishes because her name was something that we BOTH loved. It wasn't the easiest thing to deal with, but it felt so good to write the special name that we chose for her on that birth certificate application!
So stay strong, and remember: Once people see that beautiful new baby of yours, the last thing that they will want to do is argue with you. Because if history teaches us anything, it's that babies tend to bring people together. Or at the very least - if you make Mama Bear angry, you don't get to see the baby. Kapow!